Today was the cremation. Even more people showed up than yesterday. I spoke well, I thought, and the whole thing was a beautiful, touching event. I am exhausted. Perhaps I can start living for myself now.
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One thing that still nagged at me was the fact that we couldn’t do the service exactly the way my mother would’ve wanted. She was supposed to be wrapped in a shroud – kind of mummified – and laid on a palbearer of entwined willow branches. Sadly, due to the fact that Italians, even though I repeated requested them, didn’t put my mother in cooling storage fast enough. Her body was not fit to be put out in the open like that, so she had to be put in a coffin. Not the coffin that would’ve been her second choice after the shroud, neither. A really big, polished and varnished wooden coffin. The coffin she got transported in. My mother would’ve strongly disagreed with the fact that it was so environmentally damaging. I hope she’ll forgive us – forgive me – for not being able to execute her final wishes.
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Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things just don’t work out the way you want them. It was a beautiful service, Dennis. Your mother would have been proud of the three of you. I know that, sometimes, she worried if she had been the right rolemodel and if she had done you right bringing you up. Seeing how you, Jody and Robin handled yourselves through this tough time and how you supported one another, I would say she had nothing to worry about.
And thank you for putting up that Bowie-song. This time I was able to cry.
Den….although the service was not 100 % the way vonnie would have wanted it to be.
I’m 100000000% sure she knows you three did the best you could.
And i’m even more sure of the fact that she would forgive you.
So don’t you even try to think that again!!!
Because THAT would really dissapoint here.
Deep in you’re hart you know that’s the truth.
Lots of love sannie